Proverbs 18:13

It’s stupid and embarrassing to give an answer before you listen.

    Give people the gift of your attention. When you listen well, the speaker likes you. More than that, when you listen well, the speaker also hears himself. Pagka kasi may nagsasalita ‘tapos kinokontra o nilalabanan mo, hindi na nya naririnig ang sinasabi nya. Busy siya to prove or defend himself. But if you intently, silently listen, the speaker begins to hear his own voice and realizes his own folly, if he was foolish at that moment. Natuturuan natin siyang mag-self-reflect kung marunong din tayong manahimik.

    Makikinig ka muna bago ka kumibo dahil baka mali ang iyong pagkakaunawa. What is more important is this: The listener benefits more than the speaker. The listener also appears to be intelligent and wise. Meanwhile, there is a danger that the speaker might display his ignorance. Pag umuwi pareho yung nagsalita at yung nakinig, sino ang nakinabang? Ang panalo yung nakinig. Kasi kung may dati ka nang hindi alam, pag-uwi mo, may nadadagdag. Yung nagsalita, sinabi lang nya yung dati na nyang alam. At kung wala siyang napakinggang bago, uuwi siya na yun pa rin ang alam nya, walang nadagdag sa kanya.

    Pag nakita nilang ikaw ang makakatabi sa dinner table, “Ay, doon tayo. Masyadong babangka na naman ito, hindi tayo makakasingit.” Akala natin pag lagi tayong nagsasalita’t malakas ang boses ay nagkakaroon tayo ng points. Nagkakaroon nga pero negative points. When you always outtalk people, they’ll avoid you like the plague. Let us then learn to listen well. Why? Because people always like to talk; and when you listen, people like you.